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In our daily life it’s very easy to lose focus and complain about everything that is not just how we want it to be.
All problems get magnified in the moment in which we are going through them and trivial things seem very serious.
And the most important ones, those that should make us wake up every morning with a smile, we take for granted and we do not value them.
If you focus on what you don’t have, you will never have enough. #truth
If we are able to regain perspective and appreciate what we have, which is a lot, many of our problems will no longer exist.
That is why gratitude is so important.
And not just saying “I know it’s important”, but practicing it daily.
Making gratitude a habit.
You are what you do, not what you say you should do.
So, I ask you now:
What are you grateful for? What is the first thing that comes to mind?
And what are you taking for granted that you should value more?
What do you see?
There are lots of people who would pay to be in your situation and have the opportunities that you have.
But what you say is: “look at this bad beat… it’s incredible!!”
You have the resources and time and capabilities to invest your time playing poker. Are you aware of these facts?
They already mean that A LOT of things in your life have gone your way.
Whether you win or lose today, this doesn’t change. Your life is not worse or better because of today’s results.
They’re not important at all.
Your relationships are, people close to you.
You have a roof, clothes, food, hot water… a computer, a mobile phone, internet… you have the opportunity to get up every day and be here, working on what you want.
You don’t lack anything.
No matter how many times you get bad beated today, no matter how poorly you run, as much as you feel poker is unfair to you…
…you have no reasons to complain and many to be grateful for.
“Oooh, I don’t feel like grinding, I’ve lost my motivation, I don’t feel fulfilled…”
WTF! The problem is that you are too comfortable in your current situation.
Remember that you’re here by choice. No one is forcing you to play.
Less complaining and more work.
Be grateful for what you have. Be grateful that you CAN play poker.
Work hard. Or you will regret it.
Your obligation to the world for being privileged is to give your best every day and take advantage of your opportunities.
What will you do when you don’t have them anymore?
Everything can change in one day.
You can get up tomorrow and lose what you take for granted today.
And only then will you realize how little you valued it.
We are like that, quite imperfect.
Our natural tendency is to adapt to any situation, which is why we are so resistant.
But in this case, it doesn’t help.
Since we know we have this tendency, we have to be proactive and choose to do something about it.
To retrain our minds to value what we have NOW, not when we lose it.
And thus be able to fully enjoy it and make the most of it.
How can you do it?
Every day, when you wake up, or when you go to sleep, write down three things you feel grateful for.
The first things that come to mind.
It doesn’t have to be perfect.
It’s ok if you repeat the same things.
It’s ok if you don’t connect with your emotions deeply in the moment.
Just do it.
By the way, thanks for reading this article. For real, you could be doing a thousand other things but you have decided that your priority now is this. Thank you.
Let’s get back to the exercise…
If you think about someone during the exercise, tell them. Face to face is better.
It’s as simple as saying “I am doing this exercise these days and today I thought about you, so thanks for…”.
For being here… for listening to me… for being my friend… for being by my side… whatever.
Is it hard?
Yes. Definitely. Especially if you are not used to expressing what you feel.
Do we have to do only what’s easy?
That’s the perfect recipe for having mediocre lives.
Will it have a positive impact on your life?
Few things will have a bigger impact on your happiness level.
Do you think it’s nonsense?
It’s fine by me. Don’t do it. But what do you have to lose if you try it?
Do you think it has no relation to poker?
Think twice then. If you feel better about yourself, if you’re happier and if you value more this opportunity you have in your hands… then don’t you think you will play (at least) a little better? I do.
I repeat, it’s not about doing the exercise perfectly every day. It’s about developing the habit of gratitude.
To develop any habit, imperfect but consistent action IS the key.
You have to decide where to look. Whether it’s what you lack and complain about it, or what you have and value it. They are next to each other.
The greatest impact won’t come during those two minutes that you will spend doing the exercise every day.
The greatest impact will come from finding yourself being more grateful spontaneously at other times during the day.
Because those two minutes are a mental training that, when practiced consistently, can radically change your perspective.
Start by sharing this article with the people who help you, with those who encourage and support you, with those who teach you something every day, and thank them.
Be an example to those around you.
If you want to feel more valued, think, do you value those around you? Do you show it?
You get what you give. If you want to be valued, be the first to give it to others.
Practice gratitude daily.
“I wanted to change the world. But I have seen that the only thing I am sure I can change is myself.” – Aldous Huxley
PS: I was inspired to write this article, and I haven’t published any for a long time, because I’m working on the new guided visualizations for Pokermind’s Warmup.
It’s one of the features that users like the most, so a bunch of new ones will be added soon.
If you want to read about the power of visualization and why you should try it, you can read this article.
And if you want to know more about Pokermind and how it can help you earn more and feel better in the process, you can visit the main page.